Ramblings of a retiree in France
One of many posts from my back catalogue about my family which if you recall is now just my two younger sisters.
One of my sisters bought this cushion which says: “Happiness is having a large loving family…..in another city!” So true – although to be on the safe side, we’re in another country – and never more so than the past couple of weeks while that sister has been over here on an extended vacation. She’s not staying with me (thank heavens) but is just down the road in our old holiday flat which she and her husband bought from us over 10 years ago.
One of the biggest problems of living (and working) on the Cote d’Azur is that when people come to visit, as they inevitably do, they’re on holiday. Furthermore, they tend to presume that you’re on holiday too. In fact, they think you’re on holiday all the time!
The worst offenders are my family, specifically this sister and her husband. When they first bought the apartment from us, I offered to lend them a helping hand until they’d become accustomed to the way things worked in France. Sadly, because Big Sis is always available, neither of them ever bothers to sort out anything on their own. To add insult to injury, they rarely bother to follow my advice and then wonder why things go wrong. Nor have they tried to learn much French in that time, relying instead on me to translate everything.
This past week my beloved was on a business trip and I was looking forward to time on the bike and tackling my clients’ projects. Unfortunately, I’ve spent several days sorting out my sister’s ill-fated attempt to buy stuff over the internet. The last time she did this I had to accept delivery of her bed head after she’d returned home, and then pay to have it taken down to her apartment!
This time she bought a number of bedside tables so that she can finally return the ones I lent her over 10 years ago. Needless to say they are no longer in a pristine condition and I’ll have to pay to get them restored. Initially, she complained about having to wait in all morning for a delivery and had me chasing it up. I managed to persuade the delivery man to take the package up to her apartment. They typically drop off at the door to apartment blocks.
She signed for the delivery, noting that she’d not unpacked and checked it before the carrier left, as I advised. The box was damaged and so was one of the bedside tables. I immediately notified the vendor and subsequently sent photos showing the damage. Initially, she wanted to return both but has now decided to keep the one that’s undamaged. This has generated a flurry of emails which I have had to translate and then craft her response.
The other bedside tables she’d ordered cannot be delivered while she’s still over here. I don’t want to accept delivery, just in case she doesn’t like them, so we’re attempting to cancel the order on the basis that the delivery is taking a month longer than indicated when she placed the order. More emails, more translations.
I had hoped that buying stuff over the internet would avoid the necessity to go shopping with her – my idea of hell. However, now that I’ve resolved the problem with the bedside tables she’s moved onto lighting. Asking if I could take her to places that sell lighting. My sister fails to appreciate that unlike her I don’t regard shopping as a leisure activity. I’ve suggested a couple of places she can visit but I am so not going with her. Trouble is she only has the car for a couple more days and doesn’t do public transport.
I can only thank my lucky stars that I’m off to Paris while she’s on her own for a week pending the arrival of one of her friends for the final week of her (far too long) vacation. Also, thank goodness they bought their own apartment otherwise they’d be staying with me, expecting me to wait on them hand and foot and, while we might not have to worry about bedside tables, I’m quite sure there would be something else.
Sometimes if you are in the role of the eldest, others don’t appreciate your needs, too
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Very true Derrick. One sister is very understanding, the other is on another planet.
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What fun and games! As an only child I’ve not had these sorts of issues to deal with! Hope you have a good weekend. Marion
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Thanks Marion, I will once I get email back.
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Oh no, is it not sorted yet?
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No, but we do know what the problem is which is a step forward
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π I Totally Relate (pun intended) Control Freak; the Biological Family is 11, 000 miles away and so ARE The Fucking French, oh The Bliss of Island, Continent Nation with Diversity
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Growing up in a family with four other children and me being the eldest, I know about the sibling dynamics all too well, Sheree π The only child has trouble sharing, the oldest is bossy and strong willed, the baby always gets what he wants, and the middle child isβwell, stuck in the middle.
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Iβm the bossy one
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I’m the bossy one tooπ
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“they think youβre on holiday all the time!” So true !!! and that you live in Paris for mine lol! Its the only city in France by the way !!!!
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Distance is a great buffer, isn’t it? π
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Absolutely
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Families!
These days I feel sorry for my eldest because after the death of my husband when we were all still grieving, she took control, since then everyone bypasses me (don’t bother mum with it) and they go to her with problems, grievances etc. Me, I have it easy, I’m off the hook!
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I only have two sisters, thatβs it.
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Paris what a savior! I take it she doesnβt read your blog? π
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Of course not!
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My friend, you have far more patience than I, for I would have fled to another country after about 3 days of all this! Enjoy Paris!!!
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Thanks
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I sure got along better with my sisters when we all lived under different roofs ha!
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I totally understand
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I loved this post!
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Thanks Brett
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I can relate. I’ve been asked how I find it moving around and living away from family, and I always say I find that better than living with them. Family dynamics, always tricky!
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And I only have two sisters, no one else!
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Love this. I have many loving families around the world π
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Thanks Ashok
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My pleasure Sheree
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hahahahaha so true! I had fun reading this post and related to it! π°π€
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Thanks Dr M
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I wouldnt appreciate having to do all that, yes I have a sister and I love her but god! Tell you sis to sort out her own issues! Your not a maid! xoxo
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Well put Carol Anne.
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Family dynamics!! We are all such unique personalities so it would be a miracle if we all got along perfectly π sometimes peace comes from knowing how much distance to keep and what boundaries to set with individuals….. and that’s a great cushion in the picture by the way!! π
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Thanks
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